Escaping Your Mother, Part 3: Prepare for Flying Monkeys and Healing

A refresher course on flying monkeys. In a nutshell, “The distinguishing characteristics of the narcissist’s emissaries is that they do ask your point of view or empathize with you.”

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Pray well. Be well. Love well, Dear Readers.

A Word, Please. . .

In Part 1, I presented the problem in an open letter to daughters of narcissists.

In  Part 2, I addressed the interior healing necessary to move on from this abusive relationship.

Now I’d like to let you know what to expect once you go No Contact.

Prepare to be admonished by well-meaning people. Those specializing in recovery from narcissistic abuse use the term “flying monkeys” to describe the emissaries groomed by your mother, those believe her tale of woe and victimization.

A reader, Shannon L., shared, “The further I move away from my mother the angrier she gets.  She starts leaning on her flying monkeys more, and then they get mad at me, too.”

My personal best example of the scheming and manipulation by a narcissist—how they anoint their flying monkeys and the emotional fallout that ensues—happened a few months before I finally went No-Contact from my mother.

My husband and I bought a house…

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