Misty Kiwak Jacobs 


I am a Pushcart Prize nominated essayist and graduate of Sarah Lawrence College, purveyor of aggressive Russian hospitality, devotee of thank you notes, silence and dogs and very slow reader of books. Snipped to bits by a narcissistic mother, patched back together by a beneficent father, I record lucid observations and apply a little faulty reasoning.

My work has appeared in The Sarah Lawrence Review, Red Rock Review, When One Door Closes, Thought Catalog, The Arizona Literary Magazine, Minerva Rising and the Yale Divinity School Letters Journal. My poem “Presence” placed 3rd in the 2002 Tucson Poetry Festival Statewide Contest judged by Pulitzer Prize winner, Gary Snyder. My essay, “Please Eat the Lunch When I’m Dead” was given the Editor’s Best Pick Discover Award for excellent writing on WordPress.

Currently, I am a Master of Divinity candidate at Yale Divinity School where I serve as Non-Fiction Editor for the Yale Divinity School/Institute of Sacred Music Letters Journal.


16 thoughts on “About

  1. I found your site posted on a depression, suicide prevention site and really loved your posts for the month of November. I think i’ll take some time on the weekend to read some more. I have attempted to start my own blog about a week ago and would be curious to know what you think of it. I’m not an accomplished writer like yourself, but I do have a little over 50yrs of experience with depression and wanted to create something to give people hope that depression, tho debilitating, can be lived with and life enjoyed in spite of it. Any way, thank you for sharing your thoughts. You can check out my blog at:



  2. Hi Misty, I found your amazing blog while looking for other aspiring memoir writers. It sounds like we’re in the same agent-searching stage right now. Just wondering if you need a beta reader for your manuscript? I’ve done a lot of beta-ing and your book sounds really interesting. I don’t need reciprocation – just hoping to help if I can. In any case, I love the blog!



  3. Tricia Arellano

    Misty, I just found your blog as it was posted by a member in a NM FB group. Would love to talk with you about your book as I struggle with very slowly writing my memoir about growing up in a home with a NM. PS, I love what I have read so far. (The three part “Escaping Your Mother”) was brilliantly written. Thank you for that.


  4. Bonnie

    Misty I am so happy to have found your site. I could have written the Clean Your Own House article because it is my life too. Thank You, Bonnie Dulong


  5. Very glad I stumbled upon your blog. Your posts on a narcasist mother really have helped me. I am contemplating going no contact with mine, after this Christmas. I’ve always thought she’s had multiple personalities and maybe she does, but reading about NPD, she checks all the boxes and more!! Thankyou for all your writings!


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